posted January 17, 2009 05:11 PM         

Out in the real world the expression tends to get used in the context of 40 years of marriage not the latest two-month fling.

Netiher am I convinced that it is something that can be pinpointed by a Sextile between two attractively named Asteroids.

If that offends anybody, I do apologise, etc, etc.

Has anyone noticed the curse of LL? It reminds me of the curse of Hello. But here it seems to follow over-mention of the fantastic new partner/soulmate/twinflame/twinsoul. Don't believe me? Watch and see.

reference for those who haven't heard of the Curse of Hello
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/media/the-curse-of-hello-824875.html?r=RSS

posted January 17, 2009 05:12 PM         

I know that we all have a number of 'soulmates' in our lives to deal with, and whether or not those relationships become something else is a completely different story.
I know what the connection feels like, and I've had plenty of them in different forms: friends, lovers, family, even strangers who crossed paths with me and imparted wisdom. Part of me loves the *idea* of it being this fixed, stable thing that lasts and lasts...but another part of me recognizes that life isn't perfect, and who knows what's going to be demanded of me. Maybe I outgrow this person, or they outgrow me...are we still, then, 'soulmates'?

I don't think it's the word itself that's a problem, it's the association and context. Too much baggage added on to it, trying to force it and conform it into this static state of being which is neither realistic nor helpful. We get to write a script about it, when I think the reality is that the term soulmate is highly relative, so how can it be so narrowly defined? We're constantly changing, evolving (well...hopefully LOL), so the state of being keeps changing too, and becoming redefined. It's a thing alive and vibrating and pulsing, and how can that just rest on a couple of words....doesn't even seem profound enough for me.

And Blue Moon makes a good point - I mean, you're with someone for a long time...are you thinking that infernal term 'soulmate' all the time? It's just not the way it works, even though I cherish the idea in and of itself. It's lovely and romantic and yet so very skewed.
I look at asteroids with everyone. I have those connections with a lot of people. I refuse to believe that a conjunction is going to indicate my bond to another human being, that feels extremely cold and calculating to me. I want to FEEL the damn connection, not read about it and then expect the other to play out the script of this connection.

posted January 17, 2009 05:45 PM         

I liked your soul mate description.

The presumption that this going to be attached to a romantic relationship that is sure to last happily ever after is neither necessarily true nor helpful.

posted January 19, 2009 08:26 AM         

Our oversoul sends people into our life in response to what our needs are , so we can grow as per our evolutionary plans.

In that sense all our closest relationships, some of which carry on from previous lives as family and friends are soulmate ones.

Our oversoul family comprises of 144 souls, they are all part of our core frequency and thus soulmates, just as there will be souls from other oversoul families who might be on a close frequency to our soulpersonality.

The original soulflame that emanates from our Oversouls is too powerful to be held in a single body, it splits so as to be harboured across timelines and lifelines into different bodies.

However , as and when we enter a new phase of self development we consciously or subconsciously attract souls that can trigger us onto our path.

Every person in our life in any given moment is the perfect mirror of what we are.

Inside reflects outside.

Those who release layers of programming and mental and psychological kinks and issues, ground themselves into their Oversouls.

Then they first attract any souls that have karma with them that needs to be released and patterns to be eliminated.

As we get closer to our original essence we attract other souls from our Oversoul family.

And IF we have a twinsoul or twin flame AND we have reached the point of not needing anyone to complete ourselves, thats when we are united with them.

All of this is a carefully synchronised and planned course of soul evolution charted for us by our Oversouls , all we can do is take it one step at a time and walk each step with faith and love.

And, for those who obsess about finding soulmates without finding themselves - they only attract people with the same or complementary issues as themselves - and even THAT can feel like soulmates.

It is only by being free of the need for any person to fill a void in our lives , whether parental or romantic can we hope to have a relationship that has a modicum of our soul consciousness in it.

Most relationships starting from our parents onwards , unfortunately are a matter of common mind patterns , like attracts like.

The best way to know who you are is to take a long hard look at your parents and OS and your interaction with them - that alone can give enough material to process and refine.

posted January 19, 2009 03:13 PM         

Your soulmate, in this model, is really someone who truly helps you evolve, not just become better at what you're already pretty good at.

I think it even went on to say that a true soul-mate relationship is likely to feel antagonistic at times, and not warm and cozy at all until we learn the things we need to learn.

Or I may be combining articles.

posted January 19, 2009 06:08 PM         

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Why do most people complicate things?
If you click you click!

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posted January 19, 2009 07:09 PM         

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That should go up in neon.

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posted February 04, 2009 08:04 PM         

And it is not only about romantic interests, but friends/family too.
When you find that right partner/or connection.
It is like coming home
to someone you have known forever.
It is so right that,
There is not doubt, no question,
It just is.