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Topic: Do you wish you were better-looking?
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Heart--Shaped Cross
Knowflake Posts: 10758
From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted March 26, 2009 10:29 PM
 
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HSC sounds like a very deep and psychological/philosophical explanation for your average shallowness!
Quinnie, you shouldn't have.   I'm sorry my explaination was too "deep" for you. Maybe its a case of more than meets the eye? peace
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LEXX
Moderator Posts: 3794
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted March 26, 2009 10:35 PM
HSC...
Whoa dude!
Go look in the mirror...
Your looks are fine!
If the ladies are not lining up....
it sure as heck has nothing to do with your appearance.IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 15070
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted March 26, 2009 11:27 PM
Beauty's a troubling thing.For instance, I have a friend who would be a suitable mate on many levels. She's got a great family. She's got a great job. She's financially sound. She's a great friend. We talk easily. I would probably go for her on all of these levels, but I won't because:
- I don't think I could fake being physically attracted to her
- I think there's a possibility of her getting self-conscious once she decides for herself what kind of woman I like physically.
- She's a bit desperate to be in a relationship
Beauty is also troubling as the lack of feeling positively towards oneself can close a person off. People will avoid going to events if the people in attendance are attractive. Or they'll shut down on their mate, because they can't figure out how someone could find them attractive. _________________________ It's a tough thing, and it's not as superficial as it's sometimes made out to be either. You may not think twice about avoiding a group of people you consider ugly. If they were pretty, you could justify it, but if they're ugly you might not even think to justify it. You just don't want to hang out with bums, bikers, skinheads, hippies, mechanics, politicians, or whichever ugly group it is. Individually you might be up for interacting with these people, but a whole group of them is just too much. IP: Logged |
LEXX
Moderator Posts: 3794
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted March 26, 2009 11:43 PM
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You just don't want to hang out with bums, bikers, skinheads, hippies, mechanics, politicians, or whichever ugly group it is. Individually you might be up for interacting with these people, but a whole group of them is just too much.
OK....what has that to do with ugly or beautiful? Any of those folks could be physically very attractive or downright ugly.
That is more about them, and their social circles, peers, and so forth rather than their physical looks.
More about how they carry themselves and project, which has little to do with their actual physical appearance.I am not physically attractive to most...yet have never had a problem attracting people.
I can and have been sexually attracted to folks most would call extremely ugly...and I do not mean unhygienic...as in green teeth or dirty....I mean deformed, or handicapped physically like amputees, or one eyed, or scarred, or old, or whatever.
I have trouble understanding why folks cannot see the inner beauty. I mean, what are they afraid of? Are they afraid ugly is catching? Or what others will think? I just do not get it.  IP: Logged |
Scorpionic Web
Knowflake Posts: 1060
From: Pennsylvania
Registered: Dec 2005
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posted March 27, 2009 12:29 AM
I feel disgusting, actually. The lack of love in my life seems to corroborate this, so I've taken the proactive role of avoiding people as much as possible these days. Confidence shouldn't exceed reality, so with each passing year I don't quite hold my head up as high. IP: Logged |
cheshirekat
Knowflake Posts: 248
From: wonderland
Registered: Jan 2009
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posted March 27, 2009 01:06 AM
Do you think hard aspects between the sun, moon, venus, mars, and the asc.,could cause a person to feel ugly though everyone around them says their beautiful?My Leo friend is such a natural beauty but when I or anyone compliments her, she goes on the defensive blurting out stuff about her "big nose".."whiney voice".."short troll stature" or "elf ears". She has so many boyfriends and highschool crushes and you know what she says?.. "Their dating me because they pity me.." IP: Logged |
LEXX
Moderator Posts: 3794
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted March 27, 2009 01:15 AM
I was called ugly in school.
When I look at my pictures from then, I can see that I was not ugly.
It was my second hand clothes, & my ultra thick glasses that did it.
It was hard to deal with, but it did teach me personally to not look at people on the outside, but to look at how they acted, their personalities and so forth.
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LEXX
Moderator Posts: 3794
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted March 27, 2009 01:18 AM
cheshirekat....
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My Leo friend is such a natural beauty but when I or anyone compliments her, she goes on the defensive blurting out stuff about her "big nose".."whiney voice".."short troll stature" or "elf ears".
I wonder if someone(s) had teased her about any or all of that, maybe when she was little, and she took it to heart.  IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 15070
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted March 27, 2009 01:27 AM
Oh Scorpionic...That just won't do. I see the way the women love you here, and that has to be worth something for one. For two, just look at all the ugly guys doing whatever it is you want to do. If you want to be a musician especially! Neil Young, Keith Richards, Thom York, etc. etc. That list could go on for days. But in any field of endeavor you can find unattractive, well-rounded, well-loved men. Reality is subjective, so your confidence can be anywhere it likes. If you do what you love, it will make you happy, proud, or both. People are attracted to these traits, and will want to know you as well as how you're able to command this circumstance. IP: Logged |
PeaceAngel
Knowflake Posts: 11027
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Registered: May 2008
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posted March 27, 2009 01:41 AM
AG & ScorpWebYou know what they say about beauty being in the eye of the beholder, otherwise, there'd only be one type of lovable look or ideal. Everyone is lovable and everyone is attractive. Not to everyone, certainly, but definitely to someone. You can't confuse love with looks anyway. In time everyone loses their looks to some degree and you have to have a relationship based on a more solid foundation than how each partner looks for it to survive certain things. Everyone, no matter their looks or personality or any other factor, needs and deserves to find someone who will love them as they are. IP: Logged |
LEXX
Moderator Posts: 3794
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted March 27, 2009 02:27 AM
Scorpionic Web
You are handsome, intelligent, and have a great personality! 
Definitely NOT disgusting.IP: Logged |
writesomething
Knowflake Posts: 3208
From: meet me in montauk
Registered: May 2006
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posted March 27, 2009 02:39 AM
Ditto what LEXX said above. You are NOT disgusting. Handsome guy.IP: Logged |
26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 16275
From: *
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted March 27, 2009 04:31 AM
I'm average and fine with that.Maybe ugly, unattrative or plain to some and told "hot", "beautiful", "pretty", and things of that nature by others. So who knows? I think all are true, but usually I'm happy with how I look and even happier with the person on the inside. We probably all feel like we could be better looking - and could. There are some stunningly gorgeous people in this world, but not everyone will agree on what that is, luckily. Like LEXX, i'd rather be healthier. And find attractive qualities in everyone I see. Especially unique looking people who don't fit that classic beauty look. IP: Logged |
26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 16275
From: *
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted March 27, 2009 04:46 AM
You are far from disgusting Scorpionic. I know the feeling you described very well though. Please try to find ways to hold your head high. If you don't feel good inside, it tends to show on the outside. Maybe that is contributing to not finding the love you seek?Beauty is on the inside first. And youve got it. Let it shine out. IP: Logged |
26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 16275
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Registered: Jun 2004
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posted March 27, 2009 04:59 AM
I'm really hoping i end up wrinkling well. I can't wait to have long silver hair and nice wrinkles (hopefully).  IP: Logged |
26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 16275
From: *
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted March 27, 2009 05:19 AM
The last guy I was crushing on had some serious crow's feet and I was captivated everytime he smiled. He's aging very gracefully ... had Venus in his first house.IP: Logged |
PeaceAngel
Knowflake Posts: 11027
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Registered: May 2008
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posted March 27, 2009 05:32 AM
I have to agree with 26t on the smile and crows feet. There's something genuine about those lines, that they've gotten there through lots of learning and laughing at life and himself along the way. There's great beauty in that.IP: Logged |
26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 16275
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Registered: Jun 2004
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posted March 27, 2009 05:44 AM
This woman, Cindy Joseph comes to mind. Stunning. 
http://modelmode.wordpress.com/2008/04/05/cindy-joseph-starts-modeling-career-with-gray-hair-at-48/ IP: Logged |
26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 16275
From: *
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted March 27, 2009 05:47 AM
hm..... except i'm not seeing wrinkles on her. LOLIP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
Knowflake Posts: 3306
From: Florida for now
Registered: Sep 2008
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posted March 27, 2009 09:29 AM
Specifically, I have always hated my nose and when I was growing up had a really hard time because everyone made fun of it. I wanted a nose job so bad! I wanted a cute little perky button nose.
I still long for one, but I'm not about to get a nose job. Might end up looking worse or something.IP: Logged |
sunshine_lion
Knowflake Posts: 2046
From: ann arbor mi
Registered: Apr 2008
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posted March 27, 2009 09:44 AM
this thread reminds me of a song-oh lord its hard to be humble
when your perfect in every way
i cant wait to look in the mirror
i get better looking each day
to know me is to love me
i must be a hell of a woman
oh lord its hard to behumble
but im doing the best that i can 5 points and a ribbon to anyone who remembers who sang it. IP: Logged |
sunshine_lion
Knowflake Posts: 2046
From: ann arbor mi
Registered: Apr 2008
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posted March 27, 2009 09:47 AM
mvm- you are beautiful
if you had a button nose, you wouldnt be as pretty as you are! i too used to wish for a button nose.IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
Knowflake Posts: 3306
From: Florida for now
Registered: Sep 2008
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posted March 27, 2009 09:50 AM
Sunshine, thank you. You are too, btw...and your nose? I never even noticed it is the funny thing  IP: Logged |
Yin
Knowflake Posts: 1678
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Registered: May 2004
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posted March 27, 2009 10:22 AM
26, I have seen your pictures and you are stunning! Not pixie-like but very earthy and sensual.blue moon, you are more pixie-beautiful. IP: Logged |
blue moon
Moderator Posts: 6202
From: U.K
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted March 27, 2009 01:16 PM
Oh, that's nice, I like that, thank you. IP: Logged |
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