posted March 28, 2009 12:51 AM         

* Maybe the secret is fooling yourself into thinking that you are "Da Bomb"?

posted March 28, 2009 01:37 PM         

the men i find attractive these days are over 50 with maybe one or two exceptions. keith richards, who can still turn a stumble into a dance step, a drummer i know who was a "pretty boy" but is now a SERIOUSLY attractive 60 year old, despite a paunch and plenty of scars, sags and bags; even steve jones of the sex pistols, who is fat and wears glasses now...

but this is inner beauty shining through, charisma or whatever you want to call it. it is different from the beauty of unravaged skin, firm flesh and shining hair. that MUST fade with age but it is not the kind of beauty that attracts me. even when young i was attracted to a person's eyes and energy, their personality more than their features.

i think also that people retain their health and "skin" beauty much later in life these days. there are many a FABULOUS man or woman out there in their forties and beyond.

and i disagree that beautiful people are more confident. for starters, many of the most beautiful don't even see themselves that way. and even if they DO, the stress of the upkeep is horrendous. it took marilyn monroe THREE HOURS to "put on" marilyn monroe.

when i was young i never considered myself beautiful and in fact had a "weight problem" through my teens and into my early twenties. my best friend had a body that was far more fashionable, and men falling over her (she's a scorpio/leo moon) but she thought i was the beautiful one!

posted March 31, 2009 09:52 AM         

Beautiful older people. They must hope people love them for their minds, too. I hope the unattractive older people don't feel left out.

posted March 31, 2009 01:09 PM         

I used to wish I was, but as I get older, although I can still have my moments, for the most part, I'm quite happy with myself on mostly all levels. I will always wish I had perfect skin, for the simple fact that it would take me less time to get ready for work, lol. But on a whole, I love me.

posted March 31, 2009 01:58 PM         

Libra with Venus in Libra and Mercury in Virgo

When there is a nice aspect to Venus I think I look pretty and take my pictures then, but only after I did the Marilyn Monroe make-over. I also delete two pictures for every one picture I keep.

Hate my big nose.
Have to tweeze dark chin hairs more often than a girl should.
My gyno says it's a common problem (asked her because I thought it was hormonal and had to do with the birth control I use) and she and the nurse were relating their tweezing experiences. She's a gorgeous blonde doctor though, so her stray hairs are probably light blonde and she can afford laser treatment so I can't feel supported by that girl talk.

I really kind of see almost all people as pretty. Male or female. As long as they don't have a terrible scary scowl I guess. I also think my smile is way too big and stupid (and I can't stop smiling once I start it seems) but other people seem to like it and comment on it. Maybe because it is a huge caricature type of thing that stands out and/or maybe because the world can be a sad place and everyone likes a guileless smile pointed in their direction.

(See all the smilies I use? That is me in real life!)

*I also find big or strange noses attractive on men so...

posted March 31, 2009 04:31 PM         

And it's wonderful and comforting.

I reckon *most people* genuinely do go for what's inside someone rather than outside. This has to be true! How many times have you found someone attractive just because it's THEM?

Maybe I'm not making much sense. What I mean is... Often the people who are sexiest are so because of their personality and their faces look irresistible because of the way their brain works their features.... their expressions and nuances.
The best bit is........
we don't all fancy the same people! People I have thought are drop-dead gorgeous my best friend wouldn't look at twice and vice versa. Often we are not always attracted to nice people, but it's something about their personality which attracts us nonetheless.
But yes, anyway, I truly believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder... otherwise only very good-looking people would ever get married or get sex. Which is ridiculous.

Fancying someone physically is a secondary effect. Like after you've spoken to them, and perhaps the more you get to know them you suddenly find yourself more and more attracted. Even if you initially thought "Hey there good-lookin'" this usually either strengthens or disappears once you speak right?

Hope everyone agrees. This way no one is truly shallow because you are simply going for people you are biologically programmed to click with...?

Having said that.......... I don't like blondes. haha. But I could be convinced!

posted March 31, 2009 07:18 PM         

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"It was one of those days when it's a minute away from snowing and there's this electricity in the air, you can almost hear it. And this bag was like, dancing with me. Like a kid begging me to play with it. For fifteen minutes. And that's the day I realized there's this entire life behind things, and....this incredibly benevolent force, that wanted me to know there's no reason to be afraid, ever".

posted March 31, 2009 10:10 PM         

Thanks, I appreciate that

Though I am so completely average - especially in Los Angeles. And I'm almost 40.

The kiss of death for a woman in L.A.

posted April 01, 2009 02:51 AM         

But other than that I think I look great. I don't really use my looks in getting guys, it's more about the way I act while flirting. I'm not the best looking girl I know but I have had guys get my number at parties simply because I look fun. My ex (the one I keep talking about with Aspergers and is a quadruple Libra) first started talking to me on facebook because he saw me at a party and messaged me and said "You have really great energy."