posted March 26, 2009 03:37 AM         

I'm not, I'm average, ordinary.

Even so, I don't regret not having more going in the looks department. The scales on one side would offer better photos, on the other, it wouldn't help with the annoyance I feel when the women (in the organisation I am involved in out of work times) get their appearance commented on ten times more than the men.

After my involvement in this non-work work, I am even more grateful for my husband, who only comments on whether or not my clothes are appropriate for the occasion or not. He's never commented on my looks, weight, or anything like that, but he would comment if I said something stupid or really tactless. Surprisingly, this happens every now and then!

posted March 26, 2009 03:57 AM         

I was observing someone yesterday and thought to myself how it's going to be hard for them in time when they lose those looks that they've become quite reliant upon for attention or getting their way. It made me glad that I learnt that as a teenager and never relied on that perspective for my own self-esteem.

That said, even with things further south than they used to be (pre-children) and also a size or two bigger, that I'm more comfortable in myself than I have ever been. And it's mostly that I'm expressing myself honestly, as I am from inside out, rather than putting on a pretty face and making an effort to be what other would see as attractive.

posted March 26, 2009 05:24 AM         

I still have evidence of a facial injury from 30 years ago, which surgery this year may correct that. So, that ought to tidy up my apprearance a bit.

Oh, and did I mention I have hirsutism? I have to 'attend' to the growth every 36 hours!

So, let's see...... button nose, scarred face and 5 o'clock shadow. Do I wish I was better looking.....?

posted March 26, 2009 05:30 AM         

It's not Stevie Ray or The Carpenters, but Billy Joel says it best:

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Don't go changing...............I love you just the way you are

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posted March 26, 2009 06:48 AM         

My stepsister is the image of Charlize Theron. Absolutely stunning with long limbs and aquamarine eyes, natural platinum blonde hair and a soft Scottish accent. She is so gorgeous she takes my breath away. I've been out and about with her and she literally stops traffic. I can see how being that good looking is a disadvantage and hard to handle. She's had inappropriate comments from men since she was 12, and people assumed she was an airhead for so long she actually believed them and dropped out of school before taking her exams. Only recently she has been training to become a pharmacist. The pharmacy in her town's going to do a roaring trade when she qualifies. I'm surprised she's so balanced actually. She's also a very nice woman and a terrific mum.

B***h.

posted March 26, 2009 03:53 PM         

zits and wrinkles shouldnt even be allowed on the same face at the same time though.

used to wish i had bone straight hair.

be nice if my booty was still booming. now it looks like i take no-assatol as a daily supplement.
be nice if my mammry's weren't in my armpits when i lay on my back. coupla grand can fix that, but it's all good. overall not a bad rack.

posted March 26, 2009 04:24 PM         

Beauty is very important to me.
It has a profound affect on my comfort level.

I don't say that this is a positive or a negative, although,
I think my sensitivity to beauty has a hand in my creative ability.
If I weren't so sensitive to dissonance or lack of symmetry,
I could never write as well as I do; all the refinement comes
from being able to discern the subtlest flaws, and correct them.

Yet, while this attunes me to things that are genuinely sublime,
it is not as helpful when it comes to dealing with reality.
I really feel uncomfortable looking at most people,
and I'll have to focus on one thing about them that I like.
No, I'm not ogling their breasts, but maybe their eyebrows, lol.

I know it is not something for me to be ashamed of,
but it does make it difficult to get beyond the surface at times.
Still, I find that, in general, the kind of outer beauty I like
tends to belong to women who are also kind and understanding.
However, this is not always the case, unfortuneately.

posted March 26, 2009 04:38 PM         

I don't think beauty is physical, I think it emits itself... symmetry? I don't get this, someone could have extremely bushy eyebrows but exactly same length etc on both sides of the face, isn't that symmetrical? Not beautiful on a woman though huh?

posted March 26, 2009 08:19 PM         

This material world is transient....consciousness itself is the creator behind it, the real jewel of our reason for being here, inside these bodies, which are merely a vessel, a chrysalis....to the true jewel inside!

posted March 26, 2009 08:38 PM         

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Do you wish you were better-looking?

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posted March 26, 2009 08:44 PM         

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Do you wish you were better-looking?

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I'd be lying if I said I didn't. *ninja* However, other things take priority over that...like desiring to be completely independent, or being successful in most areas of life.

posted March 26, 2009 09:24 PM         

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feel sad for my KO friend tho -- it takes time for her to be sure that men like her for who she is, and not what her presence as a companion looks like, as an asset to *their* self-esteem. It also takes time for her to make women-friends, as there seem to be quite a few women out there who are threatened by a physically-gorgeous woman.....

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I have a KO friend myself and her experiences are pretty similar. It really does make you careful for what you wish for. I do have features that make me stand out from the crowd but I guess I'm grateful to be Bridget Jonesy at the same time....it sort of balances things, I guess.

posted March 26, 2009 10:25 PM         

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and most of all my brains and wit

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You said it, Zala.