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Topic: Can we all stop arguing please and grow up
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blue moon
Moderator Posts: 6202
From: U.K
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted March 30, 2009 02:26 AM
 
Though I like an argument as much (probably more) than the next person, the kind of childish bickering on here at the moment makes me feel depressed. Can we all, and that's everyone involved, please remind ourselves we are not at school any more? There are plenty of places where fights can be picked with willing participants where everyone feels good after:- your local bar, a political group, or in a large bed with fluffy sheets. I'm sure I'm not the only one with better things to do, and sadly with far bigger problems than most of the drivel I flick through on here. So can we just cool it down, please. I will see everyone in a few days (as I know this message will prove to be a waste of finger muscles). Much love to all. IP: Logged |
PeaceAngel
Knowflake Posts: 11027
From:
Registered: May 2008
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posted March 30, 2009 02:39 AM
Thank you bm.  Think I'll join you.   IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross
Knowflake Posts: 10684
From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted March 30, 2009 02:47 AM
You can do anything you want to do, blue moon.This thread is just fuel for the fire, though. You are in the fight, too, now. lol Why not just ignore it and do your own thing? Otherwise, you are adding your voice to the fray. Which is fine. Its a nice voice. 
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blue moon
Moderator Posts: 6202
From: U.K
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted March 30, 2009 03:25 AM
Meet me in a bar sometime, we can argue about whatever you like. Then we can end the evening bouncing around in a hotel somewhere, my shout. Right now ~ school run, then other stuff calls. Have fun!
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Xodian
Moderator Posts: 2381
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2006
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posted March 30, 2009 04:09 AM
Bluemoon, if they don't want to comply with us nicely, there are alternative methods  . Like I said in cheshirekat's little thread, this given forum is now under observation. If things start to slip up again, necessary steps will be taken to correct the problem. IP: Logged |
koiflower
Knowflake Posts: 3041
From: Australia
Registered: Jun 2008
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posted March 30, 2009 07:20 AM
An argument usually starts when someone says something thoughtless, ie, they have made a flippant remark that carries a consequence. People will respond to a thoughtless statement as an act of: **defensiveness
**correction
**education
**venting the emotion that has been created
**fairness
**balancing the viewpoint
**adding reason Usually most people respond to the initial statement with goodwill in mind. But have you ever noticed that people who move to communicate with the above reasons in mind, are the ones that are accused of starting an argument? Which of the following is true? ***Thoughtless statements create no response. ***Challenging thoughtless statements can be called arguing? IP: Logged |
Xodian
Moderator Posts: 2381
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2006
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posted March 30, 2009 07:28 AM
See if the intent of the given argumentation was something that leads to a constructive discussion of sorts, there wouldn't be a big probelm with the given topic. However, devolution of discussions into shouting matches seem to happen quite often around here and usually for no apparent reason whatsoever.Ergo if people can't keep themselves in check, someone will have to do it for them. IP: Logged |
LEXX
Moderator Posts: 3783
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted March 30, 2009 07:50 AM
Well Xodian....
Personal insults and threats are here too: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum7/HTML/010934.html IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 5819
From: London
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted March 30, 2009 10:21 AM
An argument can also start when someone takes something way too personally, effectively taking it out of context!This seems to be happening a lot  Lots of adding fuel to the fire! IP: Logged |
Node
Knowflake Posts: 1339
From: Crowded House
Registered: Nov 2005
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posted March 30, 2009 10:23 AM
Last March there was a huge brouhaha too. Closed threads, some so bad they were deleted. I left for 8 months. Interesting that this March tastes so similar.. I've tried other forums...we are just one dysfunctional internet family, most are.IP: Logged |
26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 16256
From: *
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted March 30, 2009 10:26 AM
Just try not to play into or respond to the threads and they will die. It's bound to happen, we are human.IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 3073
From:
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted March 30, 2009 10:49 AM
Hmmmmm, I did not realize there was any arguing going on..IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
Knowflake Posts: 3286
From: Florida for now
Registered: Sep 2008
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posted March 30, 2009 11:04 AM
I'm with you, Blue Moon. The back and forth is getting tiring, and I do have a lot of work to do too, so I should really get to it.
I've been distracting myself for too long.Zipping it now 
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Xodian
Moderator Posts: 2381
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2006
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posted March 30, 2009 12:57 PM
And things got settled in one of the given threads.Topic has now been closed. Now given the past history of the forum, yes there have been arguments and the like that have been resolved overtime and things simmered down but only through huge intervention by the administrative staff. I personally hope we can avoid that this time around. IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 5819
From: London
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted March 30, 2009 01:03 PM
LEXX - if you read this l wanted to say that it is nothing to do with me liking you or not so stop taking my comments so personally. If you have an identity issue it's your problem and i'm not trying to add to it. I am simply stating that yes, you did goad HSC in the meat thread. Go back and read it please. If he choses to not respond that is his prerogative!So you can call me snotty if you wish but make sure you are right before you do, ok? XODIAN - I don't care what you say because l am not taking any sh1t from a Uni guy when i'm double his age, i'm sorry. If people taunt and goad the accused is allowed to defend themselves so l think by you siding with the goaders, you are not exhibiting a neutral "moderator's" attitude.
I apologize for thinking you were a female IP: Logged |
katatonic
Knowflake Posts: 1347
From: ca, usa
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted March 30, 2009 01:18 PM
i too enjoy a good argument. "good" is a subjective term, but it implies LIMITS TO WHAT IS ACCEPTABLE.some people are best ignored. i am sorry for anyone who has confided in HSC. but even with the most horrendous provocation it takes two to keep an argument going. IP: Logged |
Happy Dragon
Knowflake Posts: 3358
From:
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted March 30, 2009 01:29 PM
~ katatonic ~
just saw you're post here ..
re a query you asked over in GU ..
here's the answer .. 6th post down ..
~ http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/001051-7.html ~IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 5819
From: London
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted March 30, 2009 01:37 PM
Here we are all arguing about tin pot things and Obama has just totally ****** up!!!
I think we should all concentrate on our finances because what he has done today is really going to rock the world.  IP: Logged |
LEXX
Moderator Posts: 3783
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted March 30, 2009 01:47 PM
 PS.Xodian...you have mail. IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 5819
From: London
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted March 30, 2009 01:49 PM
Are you watching the news LEXX?
I can't believe it ....IP: Logged |
LEXX
Moderator Posts: 3783
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted March 30, 2009 01:54 PM
No.
I do not have radio or television.
What's up?IP: Logged |
katatonic
Knowflake Posts: 1347
From: ca, usa
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted March 30, 2009 02:00 PM
thanks happy dragon, i have already worked it out for myself but appreciate the feedback!!IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 5819
From: London
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted March 30, 2009 02:21 PM
LEXX - just Obama is ordering the General Motors chairman to stand down, which is something a President has never done before and is worrying because it is implying he can run GM better than the Chairman IP: Logged |
Happy Dragon
Knowflake Posts: 3358
From:
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted March 30, 2009 02:35 PM
here's the news item Lexx .."Obama sets tight auto aid terms" http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/low/business/7972464.stm i'm stocking up on baked beans .. or lentils .. :-)
"Wind-powered car breaks record" http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/low/technology/7968860.stm IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 5819
From: London
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted March 30, 2009 02:36 PM
I agree Happy Dragon!!! I'm going to buy a bread maker too. I reckon l will save a fortune in bread bills!!!! IP: Logged |
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